
What should I know about homelessness?
Being homeless, or at risk for homelessness, is one of the most difficult things anyone can face. Lacking the security of knowing where you’ll sleep at night, having no place to keep your belongings, and not being able to care for yourself and possibly your family can lead to stress, anger, a sense of shame, depression, and physical discomfort. It can be hard to find employment, live a satisfying life, or do the things you want to do when you are homeless.
Many circumstances can lead to homelessness. Some Veterans become homeless due to a combination of housing shortages and high unemployment. Other Veterans may be dealing with painful memories from the military or health issues and have little access to health care or support from family and friends. This may lead them to feel as though they have nowhere to go but the streets. In some cases, what seems like a temporary lack of a place to stay becomes permanent. In other cases, Veterans who are homeless move from shelter to shelter because they don’t know where else to go.
What should I know about being homeless?
Like many others, you or a Veteran you know may have difficulty coming to terms with the thought “I am homeless.” You may become angry or hopeless and simply give up trying to find a home or stop taking care of yourself. Such despair can also lead to harmful behavior — such as alcohol or drug problems — as a means of coping with your feelings.
“I had been successful, and then it felt like I lost all my energy. I just couldn’t keep my job anymore. The bills mounted up, I couldn’t keep up with the rent, and I got kicked out of my apartment.”
Some Veterans who are homeless may face additional difficulties, such as:
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Feeling down on themselves and hopeless
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Being hungry, or not eating healthy foods
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Getting sick more often
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Having physical ailments
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Being out in extreme heat and cold
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Drinking alcohol or taking drugs to temporarily feel better
Some homeless Veterans may be dealing with health conditions that need attention, such as physical injury,problems with alcohol and drugs, depression, and posttraumatic stress. No matter what you or a Veteran you know may be going through while homeless, you may want to reach out for help right away.
What help is available for homeless Veterans?
All Veterans at risk for homelessness or attempting to exit homelessness, and their families and friends, can access a variety of resources and benefits, such as prevention services, housing support, job training, and health care. The National Call Center for Homeless Veterans provides a hotline and online chat for free, confidential assistance. Trained VA staff are on call and available 24 hours a day, seven days a week, to assist homeless Veterans and their families at 1-877-4AID VET (877-424-3838).
Risk of homelessness for recent veterans, particularly women who served in Iraq and/or Afghanistan is increasing. Of the estimated 107,000 currently homeless veterans, 7,000 are female veterans. Female veterans have four times greater risk of homelessness compared to their civilian counterparts. Kathleen Guarino shares findings from a listening tour to understand the experiences and needs of female veterans experiencing homelessness and service providers in San Diego County.
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The number of women in the military – both active duty and veteran populations – is growing rapidly. They face unusual challenges because of their military experiences and for many, multiple roles as breadwinner, parent, and spouse. Often their return to civilian life is difficult. Of the estimated 107,000 currently homeless veterans, 7,000 are female veterans.(United States Department of Veterans Affairs). Female veterans have four times greater risk of homelessness compared to their civilian counterparts.
What do we know about female veterans experiencing homelessness? What challenges do these women face? How can service providers best meet the needs of this ever-growing population and reduce their risks of homelessness?
To address the growing issue of homelessness among female veterans and the need for clarity regarding the service needs of this population, The National Center partnered with the Department of Labor Women’s Bureau, Region IX to conduct three listening sessions with homeless female veterans and one session with providers serving veterans in San Diego County.
What We Learned
Female veterans do not always self-identify. Female veterans often did not view themselves as “veterans,” which prevented them from accessing services that they were eligible for based on their military service. The following are a few of the comments we heard:
“When you think veteran – you don’t think of women. As much as society is trying to change, it’s still a man’s world.”
“I never thought of myself as a veteran even though I served. I didn’t think those words applied to me.”
“I thought veteran meant you had been in combat. …If in church, on veteran’s day, I don’t want to stand up. I don’t want to raise my hand. It just doesn’t seem right to me.”
Providers also noted that many women did not identify their military experiences as part of what they are dealing with, and therefore, do not seek out any veteran-related services. One homeless program director put it this way, “the segment of the population we serve is so focused on day to day survival that being a veteran may not be part of their identity but it is part of their history.” Women saw themselves as wives, mothers, and survivors of addiction and violence. However, their lack of connection with their veteran status meant that they were less likely to be aware of and access the benefits and resources that they earned based on their time in the military.
Female veterans who are homeless have significant histories of trauma. Research suggests that 81-93% of female veterans have been exposed to some type of trauma; significantly higher rates than the civilian population (Zinzow et al., 2007). The prevalence of trauma was born out in discussions with female veterans who participated in the listening sessions. The women described significant histories of trauma that included: childhood abuse, domestic violence, combat-related stress, military sexual trauma, and the loss of social supports and stable housing.
A common theme across listening sessions involved the stress associated with being a female service member in a predominately male-oriented military culture where power imbalances and harassment and sexual assault were prevalent. The women used phrases such as “the boy’s network” and a “male-dominated world” to describe the military culture. Most of the women felt that in the military there is “a lot more pressure on women” and women have to work “twice as hard as men.”
Another woman explained, “The stress of surviving as a woman in the military is its own type of trauma.” The prevalence of military sexual trauma and its impact was pronounced throughout the listening sessions, as one woman stated, “I heard that they want to say PTSD is only combat-related. What about those raped in the military? . . . Trauma is trauma.”
In addition to military trauma, listening session participants struggled with their own experiences of violence and trauma in childhood and adulthood. As one participant explained, “We all joined the military to get away from our families.” Another stated, “I joined the military to get away from abuse as a child,” and another shared, “I grew up with low self-esteem and depression.” Many of the participants were also survivors of domestic violence that resulted in later difficulties. One woman commented, “Domestic violence starts the downward spiral . . . you end up homeless and afraid.” Others echoed similar comments in the sessions. “When I got into domestic violence – brutal from the very beginning – I didn’t know how to deal with it, get out of it, or handle it at all." Another woman explained, “I filled my pockets in the drug world, trying to get out of this relationship I was in.”
Exposure to trauma impacts all aspects of daily functioning. Repeated experiences of trauma have a significant impact on female veterans’ physical and mental health, coping skills, and ability to access supports and maintain stable employment and housing. For most women in the listening sessions, the combination of violence in adulthood and childhood trauma resulted in struggles with addiction that contributed to their homelessness.
Traumatic experiences in the military had a profound impact on listening session participants. One woman explained “when I was in the navy in 1979, I was raped. I was never treated by the military for anything” and suggested “maybe I have problems now because I didn’t address the issue originally.” Another woman shared, “[I had] PTSD through circumstances in the military. [The] last few years of my marriage were very mentally abusing . . . left me with scars, depression. Mental abuse was like a hole that I couldn’t get out of. Physical heals, the mental does not.”
Several of these women linked their military service to subsequent struggles with substance abuse. They described the frequent use of alcohol while in the military. One woman shared, “I didn’t drink a lot before, but within a few months I went to mandatory rehab.” Military sexual trauma was another source of stress connected to substance use: “There was a lot of sexual harassment and sexual assault that probably factored into my drinking more. I think my homelessness came from my poor choices because of my drinking.”
The presence of mental health issues prior to entering the military adds another layer of trauma that further complicates their current situation. One participant identified untreated mental illness as a factor in her homelessness. “I used and numbed, became suicidal [and] did not know where to go or how to get help.” Another shared, “I fight addiction, I’m on psych meds – so mine has been a combination of things.”
The demand for self-reliance among women in the military and the pressure to prove that one is strong and capable creates a culture where seeking services is seen as a sign of weakness, further contributing to the risk of homelessness. As one participant said, “The veterans are probably the last ones to go and ask for help.” Providers agreed that women veterans are “socialized not to seek help.” They commented that reporting military sexual trauma is “particularly difficult to reach out and get help for. You don’t tell.”
Services that are trauma-informed and tailored to female veterans are minimal. Participants in all listening sessions agreed that there are very few services available for women veterans in general and even fewer for women veterans experiencing homelessness. As one woman expressed, “We’re the forgotten veterans.” One participant noted, “there seems to be so much more out there in the way of programs, shelters, sobriety homes – so much more for men,” and another expressed, “A vet’s a vet – they should have things for everyone.” The women expressed an overall need for more services and programs for women and more spaces for women within existing programs. Women were looking for programs that offered “culturally competent” service provision. They wanted services designed with an understanding of and an ability to meet the unique needs of women who are also veterans and experiencing homelessness. As one participant summarized, “we need networking groups and safe places with the right people to direct us down the pathways we want to go.”
Participants also agreed that there is little outreach and communication about the few available services and programs. Across sessions, women said that they were unaware of available services for women veterans and/or confused regarding their eligibility for services. Community-based service providers also expressed confusion regarding how to best support women veterans within their programs. There was a lack of communication between community-based and veteran-specific service providers such as the VA or Vet Centers regarding available services. Providers seemed unaware of what others in the area were doing to serve this population as well as the resources that are available through the VA and Vet Centers. They acknowledged the need for more and improved outreach and additional input from women veterans about their specific needs and experiences.
Next Steps
The connection between homelessness and trauma among female veterans underscores the need for specific programming for these veterans and has led to an urgency to adapt services to account for traumatic experiences. In response to this need, and with support from the Department of Labor Women’s Bureau, Region IX, The National Center on Family Homelessness (The National Center) created Providing Trauma-Informed Care to Female Veterans Experiencing Homelessness: A Guide for Community-Based Organizations to offer homeless service providers with practical knowledge and concrete guidelines for how to modify their practices in order to enhance homeless female veterans’ ability to re-establish stability and success.
What is an alcohol or drug problem?
Do you have a problem with drinking or drug use? How can you tell? Many people drink alcohol responsibly or take drugs for medical purposes. To decide if your drinking or drug use is unhealthy or increases risk, it is important to stop and think about how these activities may be affecting your life.
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Does drinking alcohol or taking drugs sometimes interfere with your life at home, at work, or at school?
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Do you sometimes have many drinks in a row, or find it hard to stop drinking or using drugs and wind up taking more than you intended?
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Have your friends or family said they’re worried about your drinking or drug use?
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Are your relationships suffering because of your drinking or drug use?
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Have you gotten into situations while drinking or using drugs where you could have gotten hurt (e.g., driving, swimming, operating machinery, etc.)?
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Have you wanted to cut down or tried to cut down on your drinking or drug use?
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Have you found that you must drink or use drugs more than usual to achieve the same effect they once had? Or that the same number of drinks has less effect than it used to?
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Have you spent a lot of time drinking or using drugs and being sick afterwards?
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Have you given up or cut back on things that are important and interesting to you in order to drink or use drugs?
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Is drinking or using drugs affecting your health or making you feel depressed or anxious?
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Have you ever "blacked out" and not been able to remember what happened while under the influence of alcohol or drugs?
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When the effects of drugs or alcohol were wearing off, have you felt sick, had trouble sleeping, or sensed things that were not real?
“My wife was sympathetic that I was drinking to cope with some of my deployment-related issues but she could only deal with it for so long. I think I made the decision to get help for her as much as I did for myself.”
Without really thinking about it, you may drink or take drugs as a way to try to cope with bad memories or traumatic experiences from your time in the military or with other difficult feelings. Maybe your home situation is less than ideal or you're having a hard time connecting with other people. Do you sometimes use alcohol or drugs to:
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Feel “normal” and accepted?
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Handle difficult issues or emotions in your life?
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Get going in the morning?
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Feel less worried or sad?
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Fall asleep or sleep better?
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Deal with tension?
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Forget your problems?
Although it may seem like drinking or using drugs helps you to cope in the short run, these activities actually can make your problems worse. Using alcohol or drugs to cope might be hurting your health, interfering with work, and damaging your relationships. Taking action to address your substance use and its symptoms may seem unnecessary or possibly overwhelming at first. But for many people, it is a critical step toward happier and healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.
What can I do about drinking or drug use?
Quitting or cutting back drinking or taking drugs can be hard. Trying to do this on your own, without any support, can make it even harder. Talking to your family and friends could be a first step. They may be able to provide support and help you find the assistance that’s right for you.
There are many options for Veterans who want to cut down or stop using drugs or drinking alcohol. It doesn’t matter if you want to stop having one drink a day or if you have a life-threatening addiction — there are resources for you. Support and treatment come in many forms. One option is counseling, either one-on-one with a therapist or in a group. Another involves medication to help you reduce your use of alcohol or drugs. A third option is mutual-help groups with others who are working on similar problems. You can work with your doctor or counselor and try different types of treatment to find the one that’s best for you.
“It helped a lot to know that there were Veterans out there who were in the same place as me. Just listening to their stories and advice turned out to be more helpful and motivating than I could’ve ever imagined.”
In addition, taking an anonymous and confidential self-assessment may help you find out if you need to see a professional about your drinking or drug use. You will be asked a series of questions about your experience using drugs and alcohol throughout your life and in the past three months. Although this set of questions is not designed to tell you whether or not you definitely have an alcohol or drug problem, it can indicate whether it’s a good idea to see a professional for further assessment.
Take the next step: Make the connection.
Every day, Veterans who served in the Army, Marine Corps, Navy, Air Force, and Coast Guard find effective solutions to dealing with alcohol and drug problems by connecting with other Veterans, proven resources, and treatment. If drugs and alcohol abuse are getting in the way of your relationships, work, or daily activities, you may want to reach out for support. Consider connecting with:
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Your doctor. Ask if your doctor has experience treating Veterans or can refer you to someone who does. If you feel comfortable enough with your physician, he or she may be able to help you find tools to manage alcohol or drug problems even without direct experience with Veterans.
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A mental health professional, such as a therapist
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Local support groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA)
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Your local VA Medical Center or Vet Center. VA specializes in the care and treatment of Veterans.
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A spiritual or religious adviser
Explore these resources for Veterans who want to address alcohol or drug problems.
Learn more about other concerns that may occur alongside alcohol or drug problems, such as chronic pain, trouble sleeping , relationship problems, posttraumatic stress, and depression.
VA’s Substance Use Page
Read more about VA’s programs and services for Veterans dealing with substance misuse.
www.mentalhealth.va.gov/res-vatreatmentprograms.asp
NIAAA Rethinking Drinking
Learn more about alcohol and the recommended limits for alcohol use.
www.rethinkingdrinking.niaaa.nih.gov/Default.aspx
Treatment for Alcohol Problems: Finding and Getting Help
This guide is written for individuals, and their family and friends, who are looking for options to address alcohol problems. It is intended as a resource to understand what treatment choices are available and what to consider when selecting among them.
pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/Treatment/treatment.htm
AfterDeployment
Take an online workshop with interactive exercises to evaluate your own substance use and hear from other Veterans and service members dealing with alcohol abuse or drug problems.
www.afterdeployment.dcoe.mil/topics-alcohol-drugs
Alcoholics Anonymous
For meeting information, contact a local AA resource that provides meeting times and locations. Use this link for a list of meeting resources by state and province in the U.S. and Canada.
www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-aa-resources
Narcotics Anonymous
This link will allow you to search for an NA meeting located near you.
www.na.org/meetingsearch/
SmokefreeVET/Smoking Cessation
Those seeking support for alcohol and drug abuse may also want to stop smoking. SmokefreeVET is a mobile text messaging service for Veterans who receive their health care through VA. Veterans can sign up for automated text messages from SmokefreeVET by visiting www.smokefree.gov/vet. Additionally, SmokefreeVET has a Facebook page where Veterans who are quitting smoking can post messages of support and encouragement to each other. For more information on VA's smoking and tobacco cessation programs, visit www.publichealth.va.gov/smoking. To speak with a smoking cessation counselor, call 1-855-QUIT-VET.
Vet Center
If you are a combat Veteran, you can bring your DD214 to your local Vet Center and speak with a counselor or therapist — many of whom are Veterans themselves — for free, without an appointment, and regardless of your enrollment status with VA. In addition, any Veteran who was sexually traumatized while serving in the military is eligible to receive counseling regardless of gender or era of service.
www2.va.gov/directory/guide/vetcenter_flsh.asp
VA Medical Center Facility Locator
Alcohol or drug problems may be related to other health conditions that need attention. VA provides world-class health care to eligible Veterans. Most Veterans qualify for cost-free health care services, although some Veterans must pay modest copays for health care or prescriptions. Explore your eligibility for health care using VA's Health Benefits Explorer tool and find out more about the treatment options available to you.
www2.va.gov/directory/guide/home.asp?isflash=1
What does it mean if you are having feelings of hopelessness?
Do you sometimes feel like your life is worthless? Is it hard to imagine that things will ever get better? Do you sometimes think, "Why should I even bother?" These thoughts are common examples of hopelessness and can often occur when individuals are feeling depressed or anxious.
Hopelessness can happen when someone is going through difficult times or painful experiences. Or you might feel hopeless without a specific reason. You might feel overwhelmed, trapped, or insecure, or you might have a lot of self-doubt. You might think that challenges are insurmountable or that there are no solutions to the problems you are facing.
At some point in your life, you may have experienced some of these feelings — it's a part of being human. However, when hopelessness lasts for a while, takes up a lot of your time, or troubles you, it might be a signal that you need outside support. Hopelessness might be a sign that you are depressed or that you may be on your way toward depression.
Sometimes hopelessness can lead to thoughts of wishing you could go to sleep and not wake up, or to a plan to harm yourself and end your life.
You may not have shared your feelings of hopelessness or thoughts of harming yourself with others. However, there are some thoughts or actions you and others might notice that are warning signs of a person needing help or possibly being in crisis:
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Appearing sad or feeling depressed most of the time
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Having persistent or worsening trouble sleeping or eating
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Feeling anxious or agitated
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Neglecting personal hygiene and health
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Withdrawing from friends, family, and society
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Sleeping all the time
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Losing interest in hobbies, work, school, or other things you used to care about
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Experiencing frequent and dramatic mood changes
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Having feelings of extreme guilt or shame
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Having feelings of failure or frustration from not doing things as well as you used to
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Feeling as if life is not worth living, or as if you have no sense of purpose
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Feeling trapped, like there is no way out of a situation
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Having feelings of despair or thinking there’s no solution to your problems
In addition, noticeable changes in behavior are warning signs that you may need to seek help. These include:
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Performing poorly at work or school
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Acting recklessly or engaging in risky activities without thinking of consequences
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Engaging in self-destructive voilence or violent behavior such as punching holes in walls or getting into fights; feeling rage or uncontrolled anger; or contemplating revenge
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Acting as though you have a “death wish,” tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death, such as driving fast or running red lights
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Giving away prized possessions
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Putting your affairs in order, tying up loose ends, and/or making out a will
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Seeking access to firearms, pills, or other means of harming yourself
If feelings of hopelessness are accompanied by any of the following, you should reach out for help immediately:
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You feel like a burden to others.
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You are thinking you'd be better off dead, are making plans to harm yourself, or are thinking about suicide.
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You are not taking care of yourself in the ways that you need to stay alive.
Any of these thoughts or behaviors requires attention. If you have serious thoughts of death or suicide or are thinking about hurting or killing yourself, call the Veterans Crisis Line now at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1. You can also use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat, or send a text to the Veterans Crisis Line at 838255. The Veterans Crisis Line offers free, confidential support, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
What can cause feelings of hopelessness?
Some Veterans’ distress may be related to very traumatic events like the death of someone from their unit, seeing people die, or sexual assault or abuse. Other Veterans’ difficulties may be the result of a major setback such as a divorce or job loss. Some people may think about hurting themselves due to the buildup of stress, depression,anxiety, or posttraumatic stress that makes life seem as if it’s just not bearable anymore.
No matter what the reason, people who think about dying may see suicide as the only way to escape their pain and feelings of hopelessness. It is important to realize that help is available and that depression, anxiety, and hopelessness can be treated — even if you can't see a solution right now.
“It was so hard to push suicidal thoughts out of my mind that I would wake up and I would think about suicide. I would sleep for my two hours a night and I would dream about suicide. You know, I would go to bed thinking about suicide.”
Most people who think about harming themselves are dealing with difficult experiences or conditions that can be successfully treated. These may include:
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Depression
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Anxiety
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Bipolar disorder
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Schizophrenia
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Alcohol or drug problems
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A history of physical emotional, or sexual abuse, including military sexual trauma (MST)
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Traumatic brain injury (TBI)
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Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
If you are a Veteran or know a Veteran who is experiencing any of these signs, know that you are not alone and that help is available.
Some people, including some Veterans, hurt themselves and don’t intend to die, but are attempting to “feel” something or “punish” themselves. This, too, is risky behavior, and help is available. Never hesitate to talk to someone about these issues or to contact the Veterans Crisis Line if you need to talk to someone immediately.
If I’m feeling hopeless or having thoughts of hurting myself, what can I do about it right away?
If you are a Veteran or know a Veteran who is having thoughts of suicide, you should talk to someone right away. Your family and friends may already know that you’re having a tough time. You may want to turn to them and let them know what you’re feeling and thinking.
“I wanted to end it all because I thought I had failed myself as a corpsman. I had failed myself as far as I was concerned by not being the best Soldier that I could be. I felt like I also failed my family. My father had been a military man. He always told me: ‘When you serve, you serve 100 percent. Don’t come back any less than that.’”
You can also call the Veterans Crisis Line, at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat, or send a text message to the Veterans Crisis Line at 838255. The Veterans Crisis Line offers free, confidential support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. The Veterans Crisis Line can also connect you with a suicide prevention coordinator at your local VA.
You can also take a confidential self-check quiz to better understand what you’re going through and if it may be a good idea to seek professional help. Your anonymous answers to a brief list of questions will be reviewed by an experienced counselor who will then send you a personal response to a secure website. The counselor will also provide you with resources and options for further follow-up.
Take the next step: Make the connection.
Every day, Veterans who served in the Army, Marine Corps, Navy, Air Force, and Coast Guard connect with proven resources and effective treatments to help them with their thoughts of harming themselves and find solutions to improve their lives. Don’t try to handle suicidal behavior and thoughts on your own. Talking to your family and friends can be a first step. You can also connect with:
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The Veterans Crisis Line at 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, use the Veterans Crisis Line online chat, or send a text message to the Veterans Crisis Line at 838255. These services are free and confidential, and you do not have to be enrolled in VA to use them.
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Your doctor. Ask if your doctor has experience treating Veterans or can refer you to someone who does. If you feel comfortable enough with your physician, he or she may be able to help you find tools to manage feelings of hopelessness even without direct experience with Veterans.
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A mental health professional, such as a therapist
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Your local VA Medical Center or Vet Center. VA specializes in the care and treatment of Veterans.
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A spiritual or religious adviser
Veterans of all ages and eras have sought help for the issues they are dealing with and are living better lives today. Follow this link to hear stories from fellow Veterans and Service members about their own battles with suicidal thoughts and behavior and how they overcame them.
